Managing Your Inner Critic

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Benjamin Brentnall 5:00 PM
Driving back to my dorm, Ill be on camera soon!
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iPhone 5:01 PM
Just made it home, I’m getting settled will turn on my camera -Kimberelly
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Emma de la Cruz 5:02 PM
Work ethic!
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Isabelle Hu 5:02 PM
i like that im very artistic and creative
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Fatemeh (Fah-duh-may) 5:02 PM
I'm considerate of others!
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Nhi Ho 5:02 PM
My adaptability
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Nicole Shellito 5:02 PM
I like how open minded and receptive I am!
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Tite Divava 5:02 PM
optimistic
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Miguel Colin 5:02 PM
Can adapt fast
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Yuvrinder Sidhu 5:02 PM
I’m an active learner!
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Ella Jackson 5:02 PM
I’m creative
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jackson somerhalder 5:02 PM
I’m ambitious
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Abbi Kim 5:02 PM
i like that i'm easy going and that i can bounce back from a set back!
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Monica Isabel Reyes 5:02 PM
I like my work ethic and time management
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Nikita Sharma 5:02 PM
I like how adventurous I am
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Marvin Jake Espino 5:02 PM
My drive and energy⚡
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Aaron Gomez 5:02 PM
determination
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se-jjoshua@seattleu.edu 5:02 PM
a positive guy smile
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David Chase 5:02 PM
Persistence
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Teresa Sung 5:02 PM
my curiosity!
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Camila Joseph 5:02 PM
My drive
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Katherine Carter 5:02 PM
I bounce back from tough situations pretty well 🙂
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Lauren Townsend 5:02 PM
i like that am creative and determined
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Amelia Chase 5:02 PM
Positive
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kayla pham 5:02 PM
My positive mindset!
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Camryn Gardner 5:02 PM
Determination
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Lucy Sun 5:02 PM
ambition
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Annette Chan 5:02 PM
I like my motivation and mindset
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Cameron Chiao 5:02 PM
curiosity
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Timothy Jue 5:02 PM
Work ethic
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Justin Fan 5:02 PM
I like my honesty
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Kavya Sharma 5:02 PM
My criticism (ironically)
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Marcus Fong 5:03 PM
my dedication to others
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Joseph Mukanda 5:03 PM
Interpersonal
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Natalya Sanchez 5:03 PM
I am creative and driven
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FarrahSophia Tran 5:03 PM
I like that I am honest
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Katherine Carter 5:05 PM
Not sure if anyone else sees it, but are the slides partly cut off for anyone else?
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Fatemeh (Fah-duh-may) 5:06 PM
i think it's fine for me
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Annette Chan 5:06 PM
Mine look fine
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Marvin Jake Espino 5:06 PM
A little for me too
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Marvin Jake Espino 5:06 PM
That’s better!
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Tite Divava 5:08 PM
you’re doing too much
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Fatemeh (Fah-duh-may) 5:08 PM
Not interesting enough
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Kingsten Cambra 5:08 PM
My success is a fluke or based on luck rather than skill
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Isabelle Hu 5:08 PM
thats not actually a good idea
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Marvin Jake Espino 5:08 PM
I’m not talented enough
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Kavya Sharma 5:08 PM
Not good enough
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Dinara 5:08 PM
not doing enough
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Yuvrinder Sidhu 5:08 PM
You’re not going to make it.
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kayla pham 5:08 PM
There is always going to be someone better than me
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Abbi Kim 5:08 PM
not good enough compared to others
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Nhi Ho 5:08 PM
Not knowing enough
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Cameron Chiao 5:08 PM
I am way too pessimistic
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Teresa Sung 5:08 PM
i'm about to ask a question that'll make me sound dumb
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Lauren Townsend 5:08 PM
im not doing enough or that when im in a good place it is by luck rather than my skills themselves
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Benjamin Brentnall 5:08 PM
I'm not doing enough, I'm being lazy
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Marvin Jake Espino 5:09 PM
#real @Annette Chan
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Monica Isabel Reyes 5:09 PM
I’m behind because I haven’t found an internship yet
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Timothy Jue 5:09 PM
Lack of skills and lazy
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Marvin Jake Espino 5:09 PM
Real 😔
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Annette Chan 5:10 PM
Ur not behind tho, your path is j unfolding differently for what is best for u 💪
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Monica Isabel Reyes 5:11 PM
It feels like I’m not alone
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Yuvrinder Sidhu 5:11 PM
Rumination.
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Joseph Mukanda 5:11 PM
small
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Miguel Colin 5:11 PM
Insecure
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Fatemeh (Fah-duh-may) 5:12 PM
hopeless
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Katherine Carter 5:12 PM
It makes my inner voices louder unfortunately 😔
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Abbi Kim 5:12 PM
depressed
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Annette Chan 5:12 PM
stressed
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Isabelle Hu 5:12 PM
stressed
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Lauren Townsend 5:12 PM
stressed
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Kim Quiroz 5:12 PM
headache
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FarrahSophia Tran 5:12 PM
Very small and hard to focus/work
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Marvin Jake Espino 5:12 PM
It makes me feel worthless sometimes, but thankfully I can turn it around and use it as motivation 🦾
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Marcus Fong 5:12 PM
i feel more real! u feel more seen and heard when you’re not alone, bc then u know that what youre going through isnt as isolating as you thought
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Annette Chan 5:13 PM
^^ proof that ur not alone for having these thoughts
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Katherine Carter 5:15 PM
"Anxiety is your body telling you something is not right" is something that I was told once, and I think that applies to how we react to our inner critic, too.
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Marvin Jake Espino 5:21 PM
It’s come up a little for sure, but it’s not the degrading type of critic, more of the inspiring type of critic
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Amelia Chase 5:22 PM
Totally agree with that!
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Monica Isabel Reyes 5:22 PM
It’s a little intimidating when other people know so much more, but It’s so nice that people have good information and resources to share
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Annette Chan 5:23 PM
If feel myself thinking more people know a lot more than me, I remind myself that “How could I have known” and that’s why I’m here
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Lucy Sun 5:23 PM
heavy on the imposter syndrome!!
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Kavya Sharma 5:25 PM
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Fatemeh (Fah-duh-may) 5:25 PM
I haven't felt my inner critic at Possible, because I genuinely believe I belong here.

BUT, that makes me realize.. when I am self-critical is when I don't believe that. Maybe the shift I need to have in other situations is TELLING myself I belong.

^^ironically, my inner critic is popping up telling me not to share this 😆 "what you just said isn't insightful enough to share"
So jk, take that back, I HAVE felt my inner critic at Possible 🤪
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Monica Isabel Reyes 5:31 PM
Surround yourself with really good people. You are the product of your environment. My support system picks me up in those hard moments
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Nicole Shellito 5:31 PM
1000%
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Annette Chan 5:31 PM
So real
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Kim Quiroz 5:31 PM
👏Yes
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David Chase 5:33 PM
Needed this today!
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Katherine Carter 5:34 PM
real Fatemeh 🩷
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Fatemeh (Fah-duh-may) 5:34 PM
thank you for affirming that ❤️
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Yuvrinder Sidhu 5:36 PM
In a way, after noticing the critic, when you consciously become kinder to yourself, you’re reprograming the habit of what you do when that inner critic is present. You’re trying to replace any potential rumination that you would experience from letting that critic be present by stopping it and trying to keep your mind in a good spot.
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Nicole Shellito 5:37 PM
I try to live by the concept that your beginnings don’t have resemblance to your end products. Give yourself the grace to make mistakes and fumble because that’s what gets you to the finish line
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David Chase 5:37 PM
How is this cohort so wise…haha wtf
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Fatemeh (Fah-duh-may) 5:38 PM
I'm actually a 74 year old woman in the (refurbished) body of a 24 year old
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Annette Chan 5:38 PM
What helps me create compassion for myself is going out of my comfort zone little by little everyday. Then BOOM you look back at yourself a year ago from today, and look how much you’ve grown
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Joseph Mukanda 5:40 PM
my inner critic is like sentry (me) and void (inner critic). Marvel character
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David Chase 5:41 PM
I drew a “do more dude” and he is a little boxey guy
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Katherine Carter 5:41 PM
Something I've also found that helps me combat my critic is having another inner figure, one who kindly questions why I'm having these doubts and reassures me that it's going to be okay. For me, she's like an "Internal Mother" figure.
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David Chase 5:42 PM
Yo this is good!!
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Fatemeh (Fah-duh-may) 5:42 PM
I LOVE this bahahaahahhaah
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Jackie Wu 5:42 PM
She could be a children’s book series character!
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Abbi Kim 5:42 PM
the lil devil on the shoulder 😔 thank you ahah
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David Chase 5:43 PM
Yeah abbi lets write a childrens book with your lil character haha
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Tite Divava 5:43 PM
[GIF]
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Monica Isabel Reyes 5:44 PM
perpetual tired and stressed, always frowning
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Tite Divava 5:44 PM
real!!
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Miguel Colin 5:44 PM
Mine is a annoying bird
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David Chase 5:45 PM
Honestly so creative and good
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Ben Brentnall 5:46 PM
I love the direction!
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Abbi Kim 5:46 PM
reminds me of the roadrunner!!
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this is amazing!!!!
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Monica Isabel Reyes 5:47 PM
You should voiceover meditations on one of those apps or a podcast, very calming
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David Chase 5:47 PM
Awww thats so great.
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Lauren Townsend 5:48 PM
celebrate all the wins no matter the size
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Annette Chan 5:48 PM
Mini shimmy
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Virginia Corbo 5:48 PM
noticing an small celebrations
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Emma de la Cruz 5:48 PM
I really liked your method of saying “I hear you and I got this”
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Monica Isabel Reyes 5:48 PM
Positive affirmations in the mirror to lessen that inner critic
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Nikita Sharma 5:48 PM
Journaling’s amazing
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Nhi Ho 5:48 PM
Think of experiences as a win win situation, things will benefit me one way or another
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Joseph Mukanda 5:48 PM
journaling it and having a conversation with it
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Katherine Carter 5:48 PM
Attend to my physical needs - eat, take a nap - to see if I feel this way or if my body feels this some way
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Ben Brentnall 5:48 PM
Ground myself when I hear it and journal what it says
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Lucy Sun 5:49 PM
i think talking to one or two trusted friends are really helpful especially if your unable to really shake the negativity
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kayla pham 5:49 PM
Instead of focusing on what I could’ve done or what I can do better learning to be present and appreciate every moment and opportunity!
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Natalya Sanchez 5:49 PM
i used to write my thoughts in the form of poems, so i might pick that up again
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Abbi Kim 5:49 PM
definitely taking a step back and seeing what my body/mind needs, instead of working on impulse
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Eunice Jia Yi Lim 5:50 PM
question my inner critic and just noting it down like the frequency and how heavy it feels
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Camryn Gardner 5:50 PM
Give myself grace to admit I don’t have it all figured out- journaling and acknowledging the hard things. Using them as fuel to learn and keep moving!
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Annette Chan 5:51 PM
Well said Camryn
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Fatemeh (Fah-duh-may) 5:51 PM
"I am not what other people think of me"
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Marcus Fong 5:51 PM
most issues are worsened from being hungry, alone, or tired. fix one of them
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Joseph Mukanda 5:51 PM
Thank you soo much for creating the space for us to share about our inner critic.
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Abbi Kim 5:52 PM
thank you so much for this talk!! helps to really ground me <3
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Annette Chan 5:52 PM
Wow this is like a therapy session I didn’t ask for but def needed
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Yuvrinder Sidhu 5:52 PM
Thank you!
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Eunice Jia Yi Lim 5:52 PM
this was very much needed, thank you
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Marvin Jake Espino 5:52 PM
Thank you so much for your time and bringing light to something we all face, Aleesha! Take care! 🙌
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Timothy Jue 5:52 PM
Thank you!
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Kingsten Cambra 5:52 PM
Thank you so much for the helpful tips!
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Camryn Gardner 5:52 PM
Thank you so much!
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Monica Isabel Reyes 5:52 PM
Thank you so much!
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Teresa Sung 5:52 PM
i didn't know i needed these reminders!! thank you aleesha!!
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Lauren Townsend 5:52 PM
thank you so much for sharing! ive been hearing my critic a lot lately so this was so helpful!
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Tite Divava 5:52 PM
Thank you so much for this Aleesha!
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Fatemeh (Fah-duh-may) 5:53 PM
Thank you so much Aleesha! I really needed this today!
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Tite Divava 5:53 PM
agree @Annette Chan
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Marcus Fong 5:55 PM
for affirmations, i think its important to acknowledge how you feel, but dont cater to it. emotions are fleeting and what helps in the moment might not necessarily help 10 minutes later. u dont need to force power poses but just remind yourself that what youre saying is important, has value, and that it needs to be heard. that usually gets me more calm
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Yuvrinder Sidhu 5:55 PM
One method I’m going to use, whenever the critic pops up, is imaging myself articulating what the critic is saying to someone important. You’re breaking down the rationality, and when you’re trying to articulate it, I feel that it’ll help make you realize that it isn’t something as powerful as you think it is and help weaken it, but also make you snap out it sooner:
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Amelia Chase 5:56 PM
Thank you!!
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Dinara 5:56 PM
Thank you!!!
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